Blogs Swap Status – Its The MOST We'll Do, Not ALL We'll Do

First off, Thanks DP for giving me an outlet to blog! Whooo hooo. Much appreciated!

Man…a recent weekend, we've really come to realize that we're becoming some veteran's in this game? How did THAT happen? LOL. Time flies when you are having fun. We met so many new, cool, sexy people, all with amazing and highly stimulating pics on-line…several with some serious X-rated pics that would lead one to assume, this couple is wild or as we say “off the chain”. Te he he. But then once the drinks hit and everybody starts getting touchy feely, we realize…they're all swing virgins. LOL. Is that an oxymoron or what? 

We had one couple that we've been interested in for a while. Great people. Love them. They hung with another close couple often so we assumed they were “fcuk buddies” but then there is the one night where they venture out alone and opportunity arises. Everybody is dancing, having fun, taking pics, drinking and laughing and intuitive me can tell something was on “his” mind, so I open the can of worms and ask and he says, “So your all guyses profile (don't knock the grammar, we were all drunk, LOL) it says your Hard Ball?” and there is this look on his face like he's not ready but please don't leave us. LOL.  I say Awwwwwwww! Don't let that discourage you! Curse the stupid profile status!

Yes, we have been know to be listed as “Hard Ball” or “Full” and what that means to us is we're ok with a full swap situation, with selective couples. That does not mean we ALWAYS Full and it most definitely does not mean we do so with everybody. What we do like to stress is that status is more of a way to say, that's the MOST we will do. As if there was more…well, really…there is, but that's another blog. Ha. Insert a look of relief on his face and a smile to know we're not going to rape them. 

Over loud noise and people walking by grabbing my butt (which is always fun), I explain: Look, we're non-aggressive types that come with no pressure but lots of pleasure…nice tag line, huh? At the end of the night, all I want is to ride my husband like a broke dancer who has to pay rent the next day. If that's ALL that happens, we're cool. If nothing happens, we'll probably fall asleep at some point, but that's cool too...just wake us up and send us home. Are we interested in more, when the time is right?  Sure. Is it a requirement? No.

Now having said that, we know some other very nice and sexy as hell couples who say they are Hard and Soft is just a tease. Our heads nod…but at the same time, if expectations are set before hand, we totally understand and we have come to enjoy the tease. It's not like we're not going to talk to you if you won't full swap with us. It's not like we're going to avoid you and point our finger at you and laugh and yell, “ha ha, you're a soft swapper”. LOL. Sorry, visions from high school just returned. LOL

At the end of the day, it's about having fun with hot couples that we like and are attracted to because it turns us on to each other. It's about what's comfortable for everybody and making sure limits are set that everybody agrees on. Those limits change for us, regardless if we've been with a couple before.

So how does one get there? How can you communicate to us that you are down, but you are not ready to full swap? Well for one, we've changed our status. Not to be deceiving or dishonest but more so to not be stereotyped and/or pre-judged. The second and most effective way is to just ask. If you don't…we're gonna ask you once we get to that quiet place anyway. Last thing we want to do is offend or cross any boundaries and/or have our boundaries crossed. So at some point in the night, rest assured, we'll ask and find out what your rules are and the BEST part is, we'll respect them.

Officially “Soft” - but baby it don't stay that way for long. LOL.

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