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I'm one of those nerds that utilize the holidays and theNew Year as a time to reflect. Sigh, I know, how annoying of me. Now you haveto reflect too. Damn it! ;) Lately, I've been a cleaning and organizing fool!I've been told it's my need to remove the old and prepare myself for thenew and I'll entertain that. 

Another area of reflection and cleansing is in the LS.This past year made me realize that the business of sexual sociality is a bitmore political and narcissistic than my naive mind would like to recognize itactually is. We found ourselves in a position where we were neglecting goodloyal and genuine friends because of our efforts to "Relax and sayhi" to everyone else.  Shame face.  

Our sincerest apologies. Not our intention but noted andcorrected. Hence, the need for a little siesta, which we rented and highlyenjoyed. Now back to reality, which for us, IS the LS.

I'd say the proverbial break is necessary for all couplesat some point, because in reality, a break is acceptable, but going back toNormal is usually no longer an option. It really does give us an opportunity tolook back and reflect and in some cases regain our numbed senses, but to thinkit is over, is a bit melancholy. 

But why is returning to Vanilla no longer an option youask? This is supposed to be fun, not the real thing, right? Quite simply forthe same reason that once you feed a dog table scraps, he'll always want moreand dry kibbles from the bag are, at best, a fuel source, but not yearnedafter. Of course I'm going to elaborate! 

We've found that unintentionally we discuss the LS on aregular basis and we enjoy it. No, it does not consume us. This is in additionto kids, work, school, family and life of course, but this blog isn't aboutthose topics. Those are all given subject matters. BUT when we're dining at afine restaurant, on our second glass of wine, we like to peek around the roomwhile we laugh or chew on delicious oven warmed carbs. It never fails, we pointout a couple, generally younger than us sitting across from each other and wealmost always witness the awkward silence moment. It's almost as if they'd bothrather be somewhere that the other is not. Sad. That's when we make eye contactby accident or I can tell they are fully aware that we're watching them. Stopfidgeting, boy.

We resume our spectacular conversation about them andthen we converge back to laughing at some insane night of debauchery but thepoint is we're engaging and it is neither boring, nor one sided. Sorry but thegarden club conversation you have with your husband, that's one-sided. Unlesshe's a farmer or the club meets in a thong, he could care LESS about yourgarden adventure. The same applies for guys but I couldn't come up with acleaver analogy at this time.  

But back to the issue at hand: engaging conversation.Likes and dislikes about experiences. What we favor in another couple; what wetry to avoid and were we mistaken or did we hear a queef that night? I don'tcare who you are, you just can't go back to discussing the new tires on yourcar after a queef conversation. Point being, it's something that WE have.Something that WE share and WE enjoy.  

So what? So what if you can't go back to being Vanilla.The dark side isn't so bad. Stay a little longer. Take a much needed break whenwanted. Reinvent yourself and start fresh and then jump back in with the restof the frenzied enthusiasts with the knowledge that a hiatus makes you strongeras a couple and more aware.  

Happy Breaking and New Year to you all!

Still Spectacular

Note: I dont post as often on DP as Id like tobut for those of you starved for more reading, I have archived some goodbedtime stories on blogger: http://aspectacularlifestyle.blogspot.com/

Enjoy!